GuiltI think the formula may well be “Time multiplied by loss, then divided by survival equals guilt.” I don’t know how to write that out in fancy equation form; however...reactionscomments
Bladder Cancer Comic: Prescription Pick-Up DecisionsCheck-ups and other urology appointments can be really stressful for people with bladder cancer. Having a friend, partner, or other caregiver attend appointments with you can help alleviate some anxiety...reactionscomments
Pain and Sexual HealthLet’s face it: chronic pain is exhausting. Just the thought of sex might make you feel tired. If you feel this way, remember that you aren’t alone! Chronic pain can...reactionscomments
Appreciating the Small ThingsAppreciation: “the sensitive understanding of the aesthetic value of something.” The longer I live, the more I realize my appreciation for the small. Yesterday, I called my youngest and said...reactions2comments
Bladder Cancer Comic: Help Around the HouseWhile recovering from a bladder cancer treatment or surgery, taking time to rest is important. Having a partner or friend who can help around the house and take care of...reactions2comments
Bladder Cancer Saved My Life6 years ago, I was told I had bladder cancer. Chemo and neobladder surgery followed. Then, I started taking my health seriously. See, I was your typical 50-year-old man. Invincible...reactions5comments
Neuropathic Pain and Bladder CancerAfter treatment for bladder cancer, while the experience of cancer treatment might be over, it is not uncommon to still be dealing with neuropathic pain long after treatment ends. The...reactions1comment
The Aftermath of My Annual ScopeThe scope procedure took the usual 10 minutes, maybe. The doctor was professional and courteous. The nurse was new to me, and I cannot say I would choose her if...reactions8comments
The True Hero on Your Cancer JourneyIf you tell someone you’re a cancer survivor, they pat your back and say “good show!” Or they’ll congratulate you on your effort and perseverance. Some might say you’re a...reactions9comments
Scope Week 2019: Accepting My EmotionsIf you are just joining me, please read “The Prelude: Learning to Cope with Anxiety and Panic Attacks” and then come back here. There is some important backstory that will...reactionscomments
Struggling with How Cancer Has Changed My BodyIt's been over two years now since my life changed forever. Two years since the birth of "Winnie," my stoma. You would think that I would be used to "her" by...reactions4comments
The Prelude: Learning to Cope with Anxiety and Panic AttacksAnxiety begins to manifest itself, in earnest, about a month out. It starts with the automated call confirming the upcoming appointment. It may be three weeks prior. I just know...reactionscomments
Cheeemo! Cheee-eee-ee mo!My rounds done and me wan' go home (Apologies to Harry Belafonte.) I had neoadjuvant chemotherapy before I had my cystectomy and prostatectomy. Neoadjuvant therapy means I had chemo administered...reactions4comments
What Does a Bladder Tumor Look Like?Many people in the bladder cancer community have described coming face to face with their bladder tumor in the exam room during a cystoscopy. One survivor described the moment by...reactions10comments
Bladder Cancer Fatigue: How to be UntiredOne of the worst underlying symptoms of cancer is the unmitigated fatigue it brings. Cancer-related fatigue (CRF) is a problem with multiple causes: the effect of your immune system trying...reactions2comments
Things They Tell You That You Don’t RememberImportant background info: 6-year bladder cancer survivor, neobladder, no need to catheterize, continent during the day – pretty good at night with a 3.5-hour schedule. No other issues for all...reactions2comments
Bladder Cancer and DatingIn this article, I want to discuss dating and bladder cancer. A few months ago, I wrote a companion article on this topic for ProstateCancer.net. I suggest you take a...reactionscomments
FaithFaith (noun): Let me say, here, at the beginning, I am not trying to convert or proselytize anyone. I am not trying to tell you my way is right and...reactions2comments
The "New Normal": When the Battle Armor Comes OffMy “new normal,” a phrase often used in cancer circles to describe life in survivorship, completely took me by surprise when I exited treatment. It happened both times I experienced cancer! I...reactions1comment
All It Takes Is a TriggerI hadn't been thinking about bladder cancer a lot until recently. During treatment, that's all I thought about. I thought about it for the next several months every time I'd...reactions5comments