What do I do now that I have Parkinson's and married 50 years, find out that I was not the one he wanted to marry. I have been in a sexless relationship for some time. I asked 2 questions 1. Before I die would you allow me to have an affair with someone I cared for ?? He answers NO ! 2. My therapist suggested an " Open Marriage.. Can we do this ? Answer No ! Then he indicated that we would try to be happy and make the rest of our lives happy . Now what should I do. I have always loved him and been there for him in a crisis.