Hi , i'm sorry you're dealing with such conflicting information. I'm glad you found us, hope we can help. I completely agree with the guidance Linda has provided. It would not hurt to get a 3rd opinion to confirm one concrete diagnosis. Or perhaps inform each doctor of the differences in diagnosis? Are you familiar with the diagnosis and testing protocols? I could share some resources to help you more. How were you diagnosed? Urine sample? Turbt?
https://bladdercancer.net/diagnosis