No support from family. Thanks!

By Surprise5561

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Diagnosed with Bladder Cancer in Feb 2021. Stage T2 tumor removed April 21. Worked the rest of the school year as a remote teacher. Have not recovered stamina since then. Went through my BCG's and 3-month cystoscopes. 2 so far.

Things are looking better health wise

I've had diabetes for a while, somewhat controlled. Had a triple bypass and my family left me without food or Rx for a week. Now with cancer, the spouse says "get over it". She came to an appt. Doc said I was cancer-free...for now.

Cancer free doesn't mean "back to normal'

Yes, it could come back. Spouse said ok, "he can now mow the lawn, etc". She wasn't listening. I'm old enough to retire and I am. At least work has helped by letting me go back to teaching until Feb 2022, when I do retire. Having this cancer has alienated my kids. Want both I g to do with me. Never smoked, drugs, carcinogenic paints or fumes. It just happens. Once I retire I'm moving out and will live on my own.

That is my story.

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JadaWalton Member
Hi <inline-mention username="Surprise5561" user-id="4158973"/>, thank you for being open and sharing your story with us. I am SO sorry to hear that you're not getting the support you need and deserve. Especially now around the holidays. However, I am happy to hear things are looking up for you health-wise. Sending you my best as you enter a new chapter of health and return to teaching! - Jada (BladderCancer.net team member)
Laura MacKenzie Member
<inline-mention username="Surprise5561" user-id="4158973"/> you have shown your strength right there, sharing your story. It is a difficult path to navigate and you have done it despite the challenges around you. We aren’t blood relatives but we are a community here to listen anytime and support any way we can. Never feel alone. Laura, Moderator, <a href='http://BladderCancer.net' target='_blank'>BladderCancer.net</a>
Surprise5561 Member
One thing the doc said to me....your Quantity of life is not something we can control, but the Quality of life is forever changed.
1. Laura MacKenzie Member
 <inline-mention username="Surprise5561" user-id="4158973"/> . During my diagnosis and treatment, I found that trying accept things I couldn’t change was key. It is true we can’t completely control our quality of life in terms of how illness or treatment effects us but with a positive attitude like you have taking control of the aspects of your life you can, is a great approach and that too improves our quality of life. Laura, Moderator, <a href='http://BladderCancer.net' target='_blank'>BladderCancer.net</a>
2. Charles Anthony Ulloa Member
 @Surprise5561 Thank you for sharing your story. That must be incredibly difficult, but I commend you for recognizing how important is your quality of life. I hope you can see you are not alone and have the power to create a supportive community around you. Sending vibes for healing and comfort soon! Charles (Moderator)
Linda Urbanski Member
<inline-mention username="Salleymac" user-id="4506121"/> - How heartbreaking that your family is not supporting you through this disease. I do know that people handle things very differently when someone they care about is impacted with an illness such as this. But it still is a huge challenge for you to handle this and hopefully they will see what you have been through. Good for you taking charge of your life and doing what works best for you. Please know that we are here to support you so please reach out if you ever need to, My best to you and sending prayers that you do stay cancer free. Linda ( moderator, <a href='http://Bladdercancer.net' target='_blank'>Bladdercancer.net</a> team member)
1. Linda Urbanski Member
 @Surprise5566 - How heartbreaking that your family is not supporting you through this disease. I do know that people handle things very differently when someone they care about is impacted with an illness such as this. But it still is a huge challenge for you to handle this and hopefully they will see what you have been through. Good for you taking charge of your life and doing what works best for you. Please know that we are here to support you so please reach out if you ever need to, My best to you and sending prayers that you do stay cancer free. Linda ( moderator, <a href='http://Bladdercancer.net' target='_blank'>Bladdercancer.net</a> team member)
2. Linda Urbanski Member
 I am not sure why this keeps changing who this is to go to but..........surprise 5566 the above post - it is for you. Linda ( moderator, <a href='http://Bladdercancer.net' target='_blank'>Bladdercancer.net</a> team member)

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